Product Description
In Hidden Messages, parent and educator Elizabeth Pantley shares stories drawn from hundreds of parents that demonstrate how they unknowingly send their kids negative messages through their words and actions. After each story she provides a gentle lesson by showing the child’s perspective on the same scenario and offers suggestions for specific changes parents can make to improve the hidden messages behind their words and deeds…. More >>
Hidden Messages : What Our Words and Actions Are Really Telling Our Children
#1 by Anonymous on May 5, 2010 - 10:23 pm
Oh please. The examples were all cheesey, and it was so obvious what the “hidden message” was. Parenting would be EASY if all you had to do was be as obvious as the examples given. I bought the book expecting a more complex treatment of hidden messages and child development, but all we get are a bunch of vignettes which are pretty easy to avoid in your own life if you’re paying any attention at all.
Rating: 2 / 5
#2 by New Parent on May 6, 2010 - 12:05 am
I bought this book because I loved the No Cry Sleep Solution. After reading the first three examples and the “hidden” messages, I was completely disappointed and returned the book. I found that I didn’t even need to finish reading the chapter to guess at what the message was. In one of the chapters, Pantley uses an example from her own parenting. I thought, okay, now she’s going to share with us one of her mistakes and how she learned from it, and was about to give her some credit for being honest with her readers. Unfortunately for me, in this example she comes out having done everything correctly (not doing her child’s homework project for him) and a number of her son’s classmates’ parents are in the wrong. Don’t we all know that the child should do his/her OWN homework? And maybe by not allowing him/her to do the homework, we are saying that he/she isn’t capable of doing it? Or that mom or dad will always be available to tackle the complicated stuff? I don’t think that we need a book to figure that out. These messages are anything but subtle.
Rating: 2 / 5
#3 by B. Bonazzola on May 6, 2010 - 1:30 am
A pesar de que algunos ejemplos son un poco exagerados y tal vez algo repetitivos, me sirvió para “ver”, “revisar” y “cambiar” muchas actitudes con mis hijos, a respetarlos más y a ser más clara con los mensajes que debo darles, muy buen libro, lo recomiendo, creo que voy a leer más libros de esta autora.-
Rating: 4 / 5
#4 by Dana Kendall on May 6, 2010 - 3:44 am
This is a great book. It really puts things into perspective. Read it….it’s a good one! I would recommend this book to all parents!
Rating: 5 / 5
#5 by MyParenTime.com on May 6, 2010 - 5:04 am
Did you know that there are better ways for parents to communicate with their children? Thanks to Elizabeth Pantley’s book “Hidden Messages”, parents will find that the answers are just a few words away.
Throughout the book, parents will discover how their own words and actions affect their child’s behavioral development. The book includes sample situations and dialogue between parents and their children, and discusses the “hidden messages” that the parents have just expressed. Elizabeth further helps parents to understand their own actions and gives them ideas on how to change their behavior and how they communicate with their children.
“Hidden Messages” is sure to become a staple in every parenting library. I highly recommend it!
Rating: 5 / 5