- ISBN13: 9781577314271
- Condition: NEW
- Notes: Brand New from Publisher. No Remainder Mark.
Product Description
In Hearing Is Believing, award-winning author Elisa Medhus argues that even seemingly harmless phrases such as “You’re such a good girl” can encourage children to become approval seekers, thwart their ability to reason, or both. Over time, these children become less inclined to trust their parents’ guidance and internalize their values. Exposing potentially harmful words and phrases, many that may surprise readers, this book suggests language changes that are simple… More >>
#1 by Anonymous on April 11, 2010 - 9:44 pm
This is great information, if only our parents had read a book like this. I believe some of the negative things that are said to us by our parents are rerun in our heads until we believe they are true. Just think if all the non-judgmental and postitives were rerun in our heads instead. We would be such a happy and productive world.
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Rating: 5 / 5
#2 by Midwest Book Review on April 11, 2010 - 9:58 pm
Words can make or break a child’s efforts, and effective communication with kids involves choosing them carefully. Parents interested in better interaction with kids will find Hearing Is Believing deftly blends humor with fun insights as it pinpoints common phrases and words which can inadvertently provide the wrong message. An important set of considerations on underlying teachings.
Rating: 5 / 5
#3 by Happy Eater on April 11, 2010 - 10:34 pm
Elisa has done a great job of providing a highly readable book that all parents should take the time to read. While most of us do not have her self control, each time we heed the advice to use well thoght out and supportive words, the entire family benefits. I hope she coninues to share her wisdom with us.
Rating: 5 / 5
#4 by J. Winkler on April 11, 2010 - 11:37 pm
Medhus has a great message in this book. I was with this book whole heartedly for the first 4 chapters. After awhile there are so many words/phrases that she suggests one shouldn’t say that it is overwhelming. I find myself not wanting to saying anything to my daughter for fear it might be one of those many, many, many examples that is ill-advised in the book. I will not give in though but I do wish the message was more simplistic and easier to implement.
We are also struggling right now with what to say to our 15 month old as she is starting to walk, talk and learn many skills – “good job” is now off limits (per the book) – that’s difficult.
Rating: 3 / 5
#5 by Anonymous on April 12, 2010 - 1:44 am
Mathus has some wonderfully helpful things to say about how to talk to children to foster cooperation rather then defiance, and what she says about raising children to be self sufficient is excelent. However, she gets a little too caught up in her own theorys sometimes to the point that it starts being rediculous, and her ideas about how to handle things like sibling violence you really need to examine for yourself instead of taking them at face value. It may have worked in her family, but there is no way I would let my children get by with some of the things she brushes off as kids being kids.
‘Hearing is Believing’ is similar enough to ‘Raising Children Who Think for Themselves’ by Mathus that you really only need to read one, I would suggest this one. Over all it is a very good book, just think critically about some of the advice given.
Rating: 4 / 5